A friend of mine for the last four years is getting married at the end of this month. This is the first wedding in five years where I will be a bridesmaid (I have managed to worm my way out of performing the tasks for all of my college friends). Considering all those that know me well, know how I view weddings. Especially large ones:
A waste of time and money.
Sure they are fun, food filling, reasons to drink parties. But at the end of the day if and when I get married will hopefully be between just me and him. Not 300 of our “closest” friends.
That being said, apparently i also did not know the rule of what I should and should not attend as a bridesmaid. Previously when I held this title, I went to one bridal shower, the bachelorette party, the rehearsal dinner, and the wedding.
Earlier this summer I received an invitation with my name on it as host. Did I know I was hosting?
Was I asked to host?
But because I am the only single one, not expecting a baby, didn’t just have twins, and don’t live in a different state I was obligated to help her sister who is the matron of honor with a shower. I didn’t complain, I bought food, paper plates, a piñata and alochol. Well.. I did complain to a few friends… But not the bride of course.
I get invitations to three other showers. I discard them because I had already thrown a shower. I had done my part. It was over!
Last night me and the bride had dinner.
Her: They (the bitches who threw her a pity shower) were asking why you and my other Bridedmaids weren’t there.
Me: You know I can’t stand them.
Her: But as a bridesmaid you should have been there.
Ummmmmmmmmm since when?! I explained to her that if she had communicated my responsibility of participating at every event I would have informed her that I had no desire to attend another shower. And once again three other Bridedmaids have excuses: one 7 months pregnant, one just had twins, and one lives in Alabama.
So since I am SINGLE I should have to go to everything?!
So here I am up early on a saturday because I have another shower I have to attend.
Remind me never to agree to be a bridesmaid again.